Leading from the Inside Out

One of the most significant books I have ever purchased was entitled ‘Leading from the Inside Out’ by Samuel D Rima. The tease of the title was as informative as the content of the book. In a time when I was devouring leadership materials I had found myself expecting from others what I did not expect from myself. I was much more forgiving and much more tolerant with my attention to matters of self than I was with others. The subtitle of the book, The Art of Self Leadership, struck me as an invitation that I had not received before.  What was I missing in the activity of gathering, motivating, designating and delegating movement toward a goal or a vision? The answer was a mystery to be solved.

And, work toward that new end I did.  I had to learn some difficult lessons and then change based on my discoveries about self.  Along the way more resources became available and I am still exploring, discovering and leading myself as I lead others in similar expressions of leading.  My life is given to developing leaders – young, old, middle aged, successful, struggling and hopeful. I think everyone is a leader of something or someone. And it all starts with leading yourself.

Kevin Cashman writes his process of understanding and leading self as a process of mastering our lives so that we are not subject to circumstance but we are capable of possessing ourselves in a position of self-control.

Jesus Christ taught it this way, “By your patience possess your souls.” He was teaching his followers, and us, that even in the most difficult of circumstances you can prevail. It is not even about being prepared for what comes but being ready from within.

Cashman gives us these masteries of self:

Pathway One: Personal Mastery

Exploring and getting to know yourself and what is important to you by asking questions such as:

What do I believe about myself and other people?

What do I believe about leadership?

What do I believe about life and the world?

Pathway Two: Purpose Mastery

Focusing on understanding and using your gifts and talents to add value to those around you

Identifying activities that are energizing and exciting

Pathway Three: Change Mastery

Letting go of old patterns to enhance creativity

Being adaptable and willing to change

Changing current reality allows a leader to see a new reality

Pathway Four: Interpersonal Mastery

Focusing on the development of interpersonal competencies

Seeking feedback from others will help to improve personal relationships

Pathway Five: Being Mastery

Using periods of peace and silence to understand one’s inner most being

Pathway Six: Balance Mastery

Taking time for self, family and friends is critical to maintaining balance in life

Achieving balance may be one of the most difficult pathways to master, but is the most important

Pathway Seven: Action Mastery

Leading as a whole person by getting in touch with one’s authentic self and expressing it to others

If you would like to interact or explore coaching in these areas, feel free to contact us at phil.underwood@crmleaders.org

Kevin Cashman’s books can be found at http://goo.gl/4hYsdq


Why Go?

What are you doing? Why do you even go to church services? What’s the point?

Those questions are great questions to ask ourselves. Not in any sense as questions of resignation but questions of invigoration. My answer to those questions are found in the following statements.

I am learning the purpose and point of life as God envisioned it. That is, I have discovered that my place among fellow humans is one of example. I live in such a way as to say, “I am alive to be the image of God among people far from and close to Him.”  God saw life as eternal and created it as such, but the eternal became temporary because of death. I have to live beyond death, as if I see the BIG PICTURE, and not be ruled by what I see or feel in the now. That is what I am doing.

Second answer is I attend church to be in an environment that stirs me and offers me opportunity to create friendships that help me develop myself around the image of God. I have to ask, “Do these people care?” “Do these people want the same thing?” “Are these people pursuing God or just using God stuff to cope?”

Finally, the point is making life worth something. I do not want to be the character in the story of Jesus that was given investment capital and was not sure what to do with it so he did nothing. I see I have something to invest – care and love. My bottom line is to be serving humanity as I reveal God’s love and purpose.

So, I go to be.

I Am A Missionary

I am a missionary.

If I say that in most common settings it would people would imagine a person who lived in a culture other than their own, speaking a language other than their own and living at a level of luxury far below his or her peers back home.

However, I am a missionary and none of that applies to me.  I am a human on a mission.  Some days I am a good missionary.  Some days I am a weak missionary. But every day I have a mission.

That mission is to reconcile, or bring together, God and humans.  As a reconciled person myself I am now part of a larger process of life – to assist others in understanding the link between our creation and our destiny.  We were created to be in a love relationship with God and, as his premier creation, to partner with him for the greater good of all.  Our destiny is to reign, or to live in oneness with God in love, in peace, in security.  It is life!  We have purpose, live in peace, pursue promise.

So, my mission is to reveal the personality and nature of God in every human interaction I have. Why?  To create an intrigue for inspection.  When I am inspected I want my story, my personality and my presence to witness to the fact that Jesus Christ is the locus of my life. He is the place and person in which I find myself. His story has been the reason I am redeemed

Hello world!


We live in one of the most beautiful places on earth, The Florida Keys.  Here, I have driven through beautiful vistas and over bridges that offered a panorama of horizon as far as the eye can see. I have boated around these isles and through the mangrove tunnels that surround them, out to the amazing coral reef that borders the eastern edge of this chain of coral tethered to the mainland and into the back country of shallow bay that is the ocean portion of the Everglades National Park. Additionally, I have been afforded the opportunity, many times, to fly over this anomaly of small land masses and marvel at the artistic nature of their creation and placement, gasp at the hues of color captured in the waters according to depth and sea life and wonder how it all came to be.

Now, with the ordination of calling, I live in this place. The particular Key that we call home is a Key originally cultivated as groves and gardens. It is named from that history – Plantation Key. I live on a small boating canal (without ownership of a boat) one-tenth of a mile from the where the Gulf of Mexico merges waters with Florida Bay.  I do not take advantage of my surroundings as much as I should and could. Thankfully, I do have a back porch that I can sit and watch others go out and come in on their boats, kayaks, paddle boards and even airplanes with a landing strip one-block from the house. And, I am NOT complaining.  In February of 2012 I wrote this sentence in my prayer journal, “I would like to live in a gorgeous surrounding, on the ocean, that invited creativity and peace. It would be great if it were large enough to be the place where we could plant the Gospel in people and have people over with regularity.  I want to love people and care about their souls.”

Guess what?  It happened.

But as beautiful as it is at eye level, I recently discovered things about The Keys that are unseen. In a conversation with my Dad’s brother, my Uncle Wayne, who worked in this area decades ago when my paternal family was located in Homestead, Florida, I found out that the Coral rock that are The Keys are five times more dense than concrete. He discovered this supervising the construction of a communications tower made of concrete (to withstand hurricane force winds) and the digging of a foundation to support it.

Since we have lived here there has been a massive effort to connect to a central sewer system to save the near shore waters from inevitable contamination present in a septic tank environment.  During this process there has been digging here, there and everywhere into this dense coral. What happens when coral is dug out? D-U-S-T!  Fine, gray silt fills the air and settles on everything.  Respiratory problems escalate, cleaning cycles elevate and dirt congregates everywhere. The beautiful topside is spoiled by the underlying and unseen sub-surface reality of the real Key substance.

Living here two years has shown us that the spiritual and human parallel is quite alarming.  There is an underside to this beautiful environment and, in that dirty reality lie human pain, estrangement and isolation.  The level of addiction here amazes me.  I have recently discovered, through hosting local substance addiction groups, that there are over 100 weekly support groups for addiction in the Upper Keys alone.  Almost half of all families here live under sustainable living income levels (48%).  The local high school has an under-supplied food closet to try to help the large percentage of students that go home to kitchens without food. The elementary and middle schools students use the same resource. The number of divorced people here is the second highest in the entire United States.  This is not paradise, by a long shot, when it comes to quality of life for the working class.

There is only 13% of the population that claim affiliation with a local non-Catholic congregation and 16% say that they are Catholic.  There is an aversion to the idea of church.  There is a distance from the person of Jesus.  Sherry and I are here in this environment because we are called to be missionaries in this culture.  Up until now, with the invitation to come here by an existing, fledgling congregation and their almost immediate abandonment of funding, we have existed on a razor thin margin.

We have come to realize one thing – planting a church is NOT the answer.  We cannot hang out a sign, send out postcards, and cater to the already convinced. That will not crack the culture. We need a support team of intercessors, encouragers, financiers, and even visitors and partners on the ground here. We must realign our practices with a missionary focus.

The Jesus followers we have met here are some pretty awesome people. The young adults we are mentoring are seeing and sensing this mission life opportunity and they are dreaming as largely as we are.  Some new parent couples are grasping the vision of creating a community of faith to raise their children among rather than a church to take their children to.  Empty nesters are wishing this were happening twenty years before, but glad it is better late than never.  There is a definite mission here that is pouring from the heart of God.

One of our challenges is funding.  We do not have a critical mass to raise the funds for the development of the community we have been given vision for.  We are asking you to consider partnering with us in one- or two-year increments.  This is not a life-long commitment. On an accompanying sheet, please find our ministry expansion budget and let us know if God gives you a nudge or a wink to help this mission.

Without your help we are handcuffed from releasing others and giving them the support they need.